Faults
When you mess up or someone else does you get blamed or it's your fault. Fault can be a very strong word to some and make them very insecure or make them feel superior if they say it to someone. There have been plenty of times where I was blamed for something that I didn't do. The problem is for parents or adults, in general, it's hard to choose which one is telling the truth. The only way they decide is by who's stories the best. When you do something wrong, that you didn't know was wrong and now they someone is yelling at you. How does it make you feel? For me, it makes me feel all small and like I'm nothing and sometimes I have to hold back tears if someone that I love says it and I didn't know that they would say that. Imagine what the person that said it to you is feeling. There could be over thousands of things that they could be thinking that were positive but they never said it because they didn't want to be a "softy" or they didn't have the guts to make you feel better.
They could also be thinking that you ruined their whole life by spilling mustard on their suit of fancy dress and they were going out to dinner with their boss to ask for a raise and they needed to look presentable. I want you to know that your not alone when someone says something is your fault, because we all make mistakes and we will do better next time and try to remember what we did wrong and why it made the other person so mad or sad. Ok, let me take your brain and reprogram it to react to a person says something is your fault.
Here is what should go through your brain! Number 1, make yourself think that you can do better than what you just did. Number 2, you need to put yourself in their shoes, why did they just blow up?Try to better understand what's happening. There are millions of other things you could do but they are connected to those 2. The person might be shocked because they know you could do better than that and they expect you to be the best you can be at all times. If you yell at the person they"ll yell back and it goes on for longer and delays solving the problem. I know it's a lot to process but it will help! You can do this and stop faulting other people.
They could also be thinking that you ruined their whole life by spilling mustard on their suit of fancy dress and they were going out to dinner with their boss to ask for a raise and they needed to look presentable. I want you to know that your not alone when someone says something is your fault, because we all make mistakes and we will do better next time and try to remember what we did wrong and why it made the other person so mad or sad. Ok, let me take your brain and reprogram it to react to a person says something is your fault.
Here is what should go through your brain! Number 1, make yourself think that you can do better than what you just did. Number 2, you need to put yourself in their shoes, why did they just blow up?Try to better understand what's happening. There are millions of other things you could do but they are connected to those 2. The person might be shocked because they know you could do better than that and they expect you to be the best you can be at all times. If you yell at the person they"ll yell back and it goes on for longer and delays solving the problem. I know it's a lot to process but it will help! You can do this and stop faulting other people.
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