Impressing People
Several weeks ago we went to pick up a couple of couches from craigslist and I just felt weird being in the spot of the daughter who is loading $3,000 couches into her mom and dad's 2000 ford truck.
While 2 boys have really nice Sony headphones on. They had a 2019 Mercedes-Benz C-Class parked in front of their house that had a jaw-dropping view of St.Helena. I just felt odd and unwanted. It was a weird feeling nothing that I'd ever felt before. I knew that I had an amazing life and I got to travel the world and adults continuously have told (and are still telling me) how lucky I am. Well, most people aren't as lucky. Those 2 boys sitting there on their dads new $4,000 couches probably don't get to spend as much time with their dad as I do. Maybe their dad is constantly working and he saved up for the newest Mercedes. Maybe the dad, mom and 2 sons don't have a strong bond because the sons prefer watching videos or playing video games in their spare time and when the parents finally have spare time after they get off from their 9-5 they ask them how their day at school was and they say "good" and that's it and they keep on watching or playing video games.
Now I don't know any of this and you don't know everything or anything about me. That makes us even except I don't know your name.. I have an amazing cat named Pumpkin and I am looking at her right now sitting on a beige carpet in an apartment with my hair in a messy bun and a Downtown Napa work shirt and some black shorts. Now if you envision that I will look totally different but that's what's so fun about books, it's like TV in your head. Anyway, I'm looking at my cat thinking "How can Pumpkin be so calm and relaxed when there is rock music blasting outside?!?". I also think about how lucky I am to have Pumpkin in my life. That's she has helped me through the times where both of my parents were mad at me and I didn't have anyone to talk to. Or when I cried and cried when I felt like I didn't have any friends but low and behold I had a friend letting me cry on them and ruin their nice clean fur with snot and tears. You may think it's weird but my cat is my best friend. I have other best friends but they have hardly seen me cry and have my ups and downs as much as Pumpkin has (Plus some of the times I was crying into Pumpkin it was because they had ditched me as a best friend and moved on).
She stared at me and made me feel wanted and happy without saying any words. I love you Pumpkin and I thank you for all the tough times I've had about trying to impress people because I feel like I am not good enough.
You are enough and so am I. If you have ever had a really long time to just drift off into space and think you might have asked yourself... "Why do I want to impress people?". Now if you haven't had oodles of time to do that then here we go! Why do you want to impress people? Here is what most people would say, you would say "I don't know", "I don't try to impress people" or not answer the question at all. But really think about it, why can't we just show people who we really are? Why do we post things on social media and tell people things that aren't true? I asked myself those questions and here is what I came up with... I don't want people thinking I'm poor or dumb.
Did you come up with something? Are you influenced to impress people from a young age? Did your mom tell you to tell your friends parents that you got all A’s in middle school? If something like that has happened you probably grew up under the influence to impress the people around you. If you've ever met anyone who says “I have designer clothes and a big house, etc” you don’t really like them do you? If you meet a person for the first time and you’re hanging out you don’t want to talk like that rich girl do you? If you do I would suggest not reading the rest of this post. If you don’t then try to come across as someone who enjoys life for what it’s worth. Don’t talk about the prices of the things you’re wearing, the things you have at home, how that you were raised in a horrible neighborhood or that you were raised on the rich side of town. We are all same species, maybe not all the same gender and we may have different approaches to life but why can’t we let the person find out things about us? Instead, they want to be our friend because of all the things we have and we do.
Essentially if you impress the person or they impress you, you don’t want it to be because of how much money you have. You want it to be because when you finally let loose, relax, show and be your true self they like you for that person. You want that person to be so comfortable with you that they relax and are their true selves. It is extremely hard to do but you may have people like that already around you that you don't know very well that will like you for who you truly are. The point is that you should not be ashamed of having or not having or judge people for the same reasons. You should value yourself and other for what you love to do and truly believe in.
While 2 boys have really nice Sony headphones on. They had a 2019 Mercedes-Benz C-Class parked in front of their house that had a jaw-dropping view of St.Helena. I just felt odd and unwanted. It was a weird feeling nothing that I'd ever felt before. I knew that I had an amazing life and I got to travel the world and adults continuously have told (and are still telling me) how lucky I am. Well, most people aren't as lucky. Those 2 boys sitting there on their dads new $4,000 couches probably don't get to spend as much time with their dad as I do. Maybe their dad is constantly working and he saved up for the newest Mercedes. Maybe the dad, mom and 2 sons don't have a strong bond because the sons prefer watching videos or playing video games in their spare time and when the parents finally have spare time after they get off from their 9-5 they ask them how their day at school was and they say "good" and that's it and they keep on watching or playing video games.
Now I don't know any of this and you don't know everything or anything about me. That makes us even except I don't know your name.. I have an amazing cat named Pumpkin and I am looking at her right now sitting on a beige carpet in an apartment with my hair in a messy bun and a Downtown Napa work shirt and some black shorts. Now if you envision that I will look totally different but that's what's so fun about books, it's like TV in your head. Anyway, I'm looking at my cat thinking "How can Pumpkin be so calm and relaxed when there is rock music blasting outside?!?". I also think about how lucky I am to have Pumpkin in my life. That's she has helped me through the times where both of my parents were mad at me and I didn't have anyone to talk to. Or when I cried and cried when I felt like I didn't have any friends but low and behold I had a friend letting me cry on them and ruin their nice clean fur with snot and tears. You may think it's weird but my cat is my best friend. I have other best friends but they have hardly seen me cry and have my ups and downs as much as Pumpkin has (Plus some of the times I was crying into Pumpkin it was because they had ditched me as a best friend and moved on).
She stared at me and made me feel wanted and happy without saying any words. I love you Pumpkin and I thank you for all the tough times I've had about trying to impress people because I feel like I am not good enough.
You are enough and so am I. If you have ever had a really long time to just drift off into space and think you might have asked yourself... "Why do I want to impress people?". Now if you haven't had oodles of time to do that then here we go! Why do you want to impress people? Here is what most people would say, you would say "I don't know", "I don't try to impress people" or not answer the question at all. But really think about it, why can't we just show people who we really are? Why do we post things on social media and tell people things that aren't true? I asked myself those questions and here is what I came up with... I don't want people thinking I'm poor or dumb.
Did you come up with something? Are you influenced to impress people from a young age? Did your mom tell you to tell your friends parents that you got all A’s in middle school? If something like that has happened you probably grew up under the influence to impress the people around you. If you've ever met anyone who says “I have designer clothes and a big house, etc” you don’t really like them do you? If you meet a person for the first time and you’re hanging out you don’t want to talk like that rich girl do you? If you do I would suggest not reading the rest of this post. If you don’t then try to come across as someone who enjoys life for what it’s worth. Don’t talk about the prices of the things you’re wearing, the things you have at home, how that you were raised in a horrible neighborhood or that you were raised on the rich side of town. We are all same species, maybe not all the same gender and we may have different approaches to life but why can’t we let the person find out things about us? Instead, they want to be our friend because of all the things we have and we do.
Essentially if you impress the person or they impress you, you don’t want it to be because of how much money you have. You want it to be because when you finally let loose, relax, show and be your true self they like you for that person. You want that person to be so comfortable with you that they relax and are their true selves. It is extremely hard to do but you may have people like that already around you that you don't know very well that will like you for who you truly are. The point is that you should not be ashamed of having or not having or judge people for the same reasons. You should value yourself and other for what you love to do and truly believe in.
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